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Questions for couples
Make time for
the two of you.
A private space for couples to understand each other. Answer guided questions separately, compare your perspectives, and agree on a next step together.
Private reflections · Both perspectives · 11 thoughtful modules
Continue your reflection
How it works
Your own perspective.
A shared way forward.
You each answer privately. Your shared review opens when you both finish the same module.
Make it yours
Create your profiles.
Connect with an invitation.You each use your own account. One partner sends an invitation; the other accepts it.
Room to reflect
Answer honestly.
In your own time.Work through one module separately. Your answers stay private until you both finish.
Come back together
Compare, talk.
Choose your next step.Explore your shared review, save an action and each confirm your agreement before continuing.
A look inside
From your own perspective
to a next step together.
Explore a fictional example of the three stages. Each partner uses their own account.
Room to answer in your own words.
Complete one module independently. Your partner cannot see unfinished reflections. Your shared review opens after both of you finish.
Alex · fictional example
“I enjoy having an evening together that we both plan.”
Sam · reflecting privately
Sam’s unfinished answers stay private.
Make room for both perspectives.
Alex
“I enjoy having an evening together that we both plan.”
Sam
“I like spontaneous plans, with some time to myself.”
There is room to discuss both planned time together and personal space. The report supports a conversation; it does not decide who is right.
One practical step. Chosen by both of you.
Fictional proposal: Plan one evening together this week and leave space for individual plans.
Each reads the reportSave a proposed stepEach confirms agreement
Save a check-in date and revisit your step. The next module opens when your shared milestone and access requirements are met.
Illustration only, using invented people and sample text. Your own review uses your reflections. No private assessment questions appear in this demonstration.
Read another example: time together and time alone
Beyond the answers
Understanding is
just the beginning.
The useful part is what you do with it.
- See both sides
- Read your answers together, with prompts to explore what you share and where you see things differently.
- Choose one small change
- Keep your agreed next steps in Conversations, then return to see how you’re doing.
- Recognise your progress
- Celebrate finishing each module together before starting your next conversation.
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Your partner adds their photo and details from their own Profile page.
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Start your next private reflection
Answer your side first. Shared review opens only when both partners finish the same module.
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Real life.
Meaningful conversations.
Eleven topics, from commitment to money and family. Start with Module 1 free during your first month. Continue with a paid membership, one module at a time.
One membership. Both of you.
Start with a month.
Make space for more.
Module 1 is free in your first month. From month two, a paid membership gives both connected partners access to Modules 2–11, completed one at a time.
Read the membership guideYour first monthModule 1, free
Get to know the process together.
Monthly
Keep it flexible
A$19.99per month after your free month
Renews monthly until cancelled.
Explore monthlyAnnual
A year together
A$220one payment for twelve paid months
After your free month.
Ends automatically. No annual renewal.
One plan covers both connected partners.
The free month is available once per person and starts when you first open your signed-in workspace or membership page. Payment details are required when choosing a paid plan. Connecting profiles uses the earlier trial end date.
Relationship reading
Different stages.
Room to think.
Original public guides for before a relationship, everyday communication and important decisions. The app currently offers guided modules and shared reviews for partners.
Before you begin
Good questions.
Clear answers.
Start with what you’d like to know.
Visit the help centreGetting started
What is Deciphering Us?
Deciphering Us is a web app for couples to reflect privately, compare their perspectives and choose practical next steps together. Eleven modules explore topics such as commitment, money, conflict, family and intimacy.
How do we connect?
Create your profile, send your partner an invitation link, and have them accept it while signed in to their own account.
Can we use it on our phones?
Yes. Open DecipheringUs.com in your phone’s browser. You can also add it to your home screen. Each partner uses their own account; you do not need to be on the same device.
Your space, your pace
Who can see my answers?
Your partner sees your answers after you both finish the same module. The admin centre shows account information, not your personal reflections.
What if we disagree?
Your review highlights different perspectives and gives you discussion prompts. It doesn’t decide who is right or diagnose your relationship.
Can we take our time?
Yes. Save your progress and return when you’re ready. Shared review opens when both partners finish; you choose your next step together.
Membership & access
What is included in the free month?
Module 1 is available during your first month. The free month starts when you first open your signed-in workspace or membership page and is available once per person. Connecting partners uses the earlier trial end date. Modules 2–11 require an active paid membership.
Do both partners need to pay?
No. One membership covers both connected partners. After the free month, the monthly plan costs A$19.99 and renews until cancelled. Annual access costs one A$220 payment for twelve paid months after the free month and ends automatically without annual renewal.
Making progress
What happens when we finish a module?
When both partners finish their reflections, your shared review opens. Compare your answers, discuss your discoveries, save a shared action and each confirm your agreement. Your journey then updates so you can continue to the next available module.
Is this couples therapy or a lie detector?
No. Deciphering Us provides guided reflection and conversation prompts. It does not diagnose a relationship, verify whether someone is truthful or replace professional support. Honest answers make your conversations more useful.
Keep Deciphering Us close
Your journey,
on your home screen.
Add Deciphering Us to your phone, tablet or computer for quicker access. No app-store download needed.
- Phone
- Tablet
- Computer
Available in supported browsers. Internet access is needed to save and sync your reflections. Installing does not change your membership.
One conversation at a time